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November 5, 2012

Starting a new project. We seem to be at the point where individual views and therefore the national mood on gay marriage is shifting. The Wall Street Journal has a series of graphics that visualizes support and opposition to gay marriage across many demographics.

But it all comes down to individuals and sharing what matters to each of us. So I’m starting to tell my story and why I want to be able to legally marry. I’ll paste the first post below.

BLOG HEADER: I Want A Ring and If You’re Reading This, Gayle, I Suggest Tiffany & Co.


Let’s make it personal.  Hi, my name is Michelle Denise Norton.  I want to get married.  To the very specific person I fell in love with, Gayle Eubank. Now. I will be engaged for 24 years this December and if it had been possible, I would have met Gayle somewhere in Evanston or Chicago for a civil ceremony before she moved into my apartment at the end of January 1989. I had a roommate (let’s call her D) freak out when she found out Gayle and I had started dating.  This involved D demanding she move into university housing in Gayle’s place and Gayle move into our apartment.  I had maybe planned to move in together after Gayle got back for the summer. So that timeline suddenly got accelerated.  At this point, I had finished at Northwestern and was working as an Admissions Clerk at a hospital and Gayle had just started her senior year as a Journalism Major.

 The United States Presidential election is happening Tuesday.  We are at a point of cultural shift.  The Republican and Democratic National Parties (oh, they are so not a party, either of them)  and the GLBTQ media and community have turned the “can the gay community marry” question into a high contrast, highly volatile, yes or no, no compromise issue.  Vote Romney, be anti gay marriage and families; vote Obama, equal rights are supported in speeches and interviews, mechanics to be worked out later.  

In Maine, people are going door to door to support Question 1, a referendum legalizing gay marriage.  They tell neighbors why it matters to them, their families and/or their friends.  They make it personal.  They share their stories.   So I’ll tell you mine, one part at a time, how Gayle and I got here and where, when and how we started.  

 And maybe some day soon, I’ll be able to flash you a picture of that wedding ring* ; )

*Gayle did accept my initial proposal that December night, but has refused to go through with it twice…once at a protest during a March on Washington and once when I suggested we go to Canada. My feelings were hurt.  A little.  But her theory:  do it once, legally and in church.  Ours is Episcopalian so that part is possible.  Take a New Jersey Irish Catholic and a Kentucky Southern Baptist and after seventeen years or so, the church they agree on turns out to be Episcopalian. 

Good night and/or good morning.  If you’re living in the USA, vote on Tuesday.  And then come back and see how the story continues. 

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